A child custody case can be one of the most stressful situation that a parent can go through. Knowing that such a battle involves extreme emotions and convictions, it is vital for a parent to keep in mind that their words, actions and behavior both during as well as outside of court settings can affect their child’s wellbeing and their ongoing relationship with them.
With all your heart and efforts, you are committed to winning a custody battle. However, the core issue in this matter is that the child is not a piece of furniture to be earned or lost. Parents at this crucial time act irrationally and end up showing negative and harsh behaviors during the court’s proceedings, acting out like that in front of a judge causes a huge loss for such parent in the long run.
Keeping all this in mind, we have compiled a list of six things drawn from our decades of experience with family law cases that you must never attempt if you truly want to achieve a positive outcome in a custody battle:
1. Alienate the Kids
It would be hard for you to speak pleasantly to the other person during the court’s hearing, especially when they are talking poorly about you. When both the parents put allegations on each other, children who are already facing an emotional trauma would not be able to handle such situation. Therefore it is ideal to shut your mouth when your ex-spouse is accusing you and narrating situations that you guys were facing. Rather focus on being the ideal parent you could ever be for your child.
Though your emotions would be very high at this point in your life, shouting will be perceived as aggression in the court. This can give the other parent a chance to claim that you are unable to control your temper thus they fear for themselves and their children. Consequently, always talk politely to your children and even your ex if your conversation is being recorded, that could be used as evidence to prove you as a good or bad parent.
3. Fight or Get Physical
Although your temper may be at a boiling point, you should never even think to harm another person, particularly the other parent physically. Even when the other parent gets physical with you by hitting or shoving, leave the situation and call the police to file a report. However, contact a legal practitioner before taking any legal action in such a situation.
4. Stop Paying Child Support
Failure to pay child support obligations can be seen as the contempt of court’s orders thus can result in jail time, making it very hard for you to see your children if you are behind bars. Consequently, do whatever you can to make sure that the support obligations are being met timely.
5. Damage someone’s Property
Although you might wish to damage or harm your ex’s property so that you can vent out your anger. Resist the urge and control your emotions, as if you attempt such an act you would be perceived as a dangerous person and eventually considered as an immoral person who won’t be able to provide worthy upbringing of the child.
6. Deny the Other Parent to Contact
When you deny the other parent to have access to your children, whether physically or via telephonic conversation, you will be interfering with the child-parent relationship. And this can affect your case as you are neither valuing the other parent nor caring about your children’s need to have both a mother and a father.