All that matters to you right now is winning your child’s custody case. You are ready to do whatever it takes. For that, you need to be fully aware of what you have to do and what you should not do.
How do you prepare yourself? Below are some do’s and don’ts that will help you win your child custody case.
Do try to show an inclination to work with your ex: As hard and impossible as it may seem to accept right now, just remember that your ex is as much of a part of your child’s life as you are. Try to show some tendency to work and cooperate with your ex so the court can see that you care about your child’s best interests.
Do ask for a child custody evaluation: An evaluator’s evaluation can be tremendously useful and can work in your favor, especially if your ex is trying to portray a bad picture of you.
Do present yourself to the court in the best manner: The one thing you need to keep in mind is that the court tends to believe what they see. You need to do whatever you can to make yourself seem the loving, caring and capable parent you are. Show up on time, if not before, for court. Make sure that your attire is clean and proper. Maintain decorum in the courtroom and before the judge.
Do research on your state’s child custody laws beforehand: Make sure to do all your research on family laws and child custody laws applicable to your state so that you are fully aware and prepared. Read all about Virginia Child Custody Laws to be well prepared.
Do make sure all your documentation is complete: Make sure to check that all of your documents are with you and complete the day before the hearing.
Do take the assistance of a qualified child custody lawyer: True, lawyers can be heavy on your pockets and bank accounts, but they can make all the difference from winning to losing your case and vice versa. If you don’t have the resources, get a free consultation or look up free legal clinics located in your state.
Don’t talk negatively about your ex in front of your children: Don’t try to talk bad about your ex to your kids. Unfortunately, most of the times kids tend to be the scapegoat as all frustration is taken out on them. Go to a friend and let all your anger and feelings out, not on your kids.
Don’t reject whatever the court asks of you: Even if you don’t agree, take it as your chance to show just how much you are ready to do for your kids. Be it counseling or parenting classes, don’t refuse the court.
Don’t make up stories: Remember that I you come up with false, negative stories to prove your ex’s shortcomings, it can always backfire and stab you in the back. You will most likely lose whatever chance you have to win back your kids.